Lately the issue of black dudes marrying white ladies for papers has become a hot topic of discussion that I easily tire of following after a while, after all, it is their life abi? But I've never really thought about it from the woman's point of view-- not until today when someone told me about her good friend from Eastern Europe who got married to a West African man who, as far as she and her other friends were concerned, was not as committed as she was to the relationship. What I found surprising was the fact that the lady who married him (let's call her Mata for simplicity's sake please)-- Mata was very much aware of the fact that he married her so that he could remain in the UK, but she was (and still is) really in love with him so it didn't matter to her. Sha sha, what is the moral of this story/gogo? I dunno; it's just something that is making me go "hmmm..."
I was reading StandTall's article about accents and the tragedy of self-hate, and I can't help but remember different instances where people tell me, "ah you are not trying at all oh, instead of you to change your accent and talk like them [Brits]." Then you meet them really fake people who start blowing funeh for you after spending what, 4 years in the UK? Haba mana! It's one thing to become integrated into a new culture, it is another thing to sell-out.
I'm thinking that as long as we are careful to pronounce things correctly, we should be happy with our accents, fullstop.
Meanwhile, UK life has taught me to respect time! In fact I've become such a grinch with my time! And I've also learnt to read the fineprint oh!! I can recall a good number of instances where I saw deals too good to be true--- most of them were. Hmmm... bottomline, advertising can be seriously fake-business so make sure you read reviews, reviews and more reviews before committing to anything, be it a computer, spa package, trip or hotel room.
I totally loved Myne's heartfelt post about what makes a woman a good wife, especially as I've been um... having my self-doubts lols. To put it in perspective, my housemates all know the wedding dresses they are going to wear, interior decor, first aid for kids, how to cook up a storm, romance and sha you get. Me? I'm trying to get myself into that mode oh (operating word--trying). Her post was really timely; while I won't stop trying to learn about these things, that quiet worry that follows me around is less clingy now that I know that Myne and other self-confessed unconventional good wives are doing okay :)
Something you wouldn't catch me saying at an interview: "Em well... I think team work is over-rated. I tend to do things better and faster when I'm working on my own, so... yeh!" Don't get me wrong, I don't mind working with people, but it's just that most of the times I've had to work on projects with people, there are some major slackers that just don't pull their weight and drag the rest of us down in the process. I'm remembering one group coursework like this that about 6 of us were working on. No scratch that, two of us were working on... don't worry I won't bore you with the details. Suffice to say, I just think the whole team spirit thingy is over-rated sometimes, shikenan... which isn't a good thing to think esp. as I have a job interview for a customer service role in a few hours time... no pressure... they set us up to be less than honest in these assessments, methinks.
"Oh I love working as a team, absolutely!" Hmmm...
You can cover your bases as an employee, but when wahala comes, if the top shots are looking for a scapegoat, they are not likely to nominate themselves. I read about the 2007 National Rail accident that killed one person and injured 86, about 28 of whom were seriously injured. The train derailed, you see, and I thought to myself 'mehn the track maintenance man is sooo fired for life' and in deed he was fired (but I dunno if it's for life). What made me go 'hmmm, sad!' was the fact that the dude had sent emails complaining to his bosses that he and his team were obviously over-worked, having to monitor so many tracks what with the Company's target to increase rail services. When the worst happened, did they take this complaint into consideration? Sadly, no. Hmmm... may God forbid bad thing!
I so don't want to fall ill at this point in time, what with all the deadlines I'm now facing. I was to travel somewhere with my housemate, but one thing-one thing led to many things and we had to go separately. My people, help me thank God oo, because the story might have been different if I had followed the original plan, because now the poor girl is battling with chicken pox! (Kneels down and says a prayer of healing for Housemate and a prayer of thanks for Self). Hmmm, the Lord doth answer prayers (because one of my major prayer points before starting my current job was that I didn't want to fall ill at any point. Is He gracious or what??!)
I had almost 800, but it felt more like 8: So a while ago I went on a mad facebook deletion rampage and wiped off close to 500 people. My sister said this was very rude of me, but I explained that I didn't see the point in having so many 'friends' who couldn't be bothered to reply my message or generally be 'alive'. Besides, a number of people are of the opinion that the ideal number of 'friends' you can actually maintain relationships with on facebook is 150. Do you agree with my Sis? Did I do something really rude, or is the facebook friending thing just over-rated and anything goes? Hmmm...
Lately I've gotten hooked on comments people make in Yahoo! articles. An article talking about how shops like Poundland, Poundstretcher and 99p Shop have become so popular with rich, middle and low-income consumers since one can get things far cheaper there. One commenter goes, "Marks & Spencer is going to buy Poundstretcher and they are going to call it Stretch Marks." Lol! don't know why it cracks me up so much.
Thanks for reading all my lengthy randoms. Now I shall continue saying "hello how far" to my housemate from a safe distance. Could you say a prayer for her too? Thanks, and happy weekend!!